The "Secret" Grief

I have not yet watched the next episode of "Secret Life" but I have pretty much decided that I am not going to comment on the upcoming scenes as the main characters deal with their grief. I was completely at ease talking about how I felt ABC dealt with the subject of baby loss last week. This week, I'm not sure that I can truly comment on something that is so personal to each and every one of us. I did see the very beginning of the show as it was coming on and my son was putting in the nightly Scooby Doo DVD. I heard that they had skipped ahead 2 months and the grief and anger were very present. How can I comment on how ABC decides to portray the tremendous grief of these characters? Who am I to say she should be through that stage by now? Why would I want to pressure anyone into feeling or not feeling anything more or less than what THEY need to feel for THEIR grief process? 


I tell people all the time that they need to do it their way, that there is no wrong or right way, only what is best for them. That is part of ridding the taboo, saying it is ok to grieve as long as you need to and not to get over it and move on. Heck, I may not watch this episode at all after the few minutes I have already seen. I would not want to find myself judging someone who is by all means a character in a TV show but could still represent thousands of women out there right now. 


Yep, pretty sure I've talked myself out of watching "Secret Life".